Third-term abortions a travesty

Friday, February 8, 2019

In the five-plus years I have been blogging, I don't think I've ever written a controversial post. But I feel I need to respond to the recent state of New York legislation on abortion. That, together with recent comments by the governor of Virginia, have compelled me to say something about the wretched lack of regard for life here in our country.

Originally, I was only going to simply respond to some pro-choice Facebook posts, but I've never liked getting into online arguments, and they never seem to go very well anyway . . . So here are my thoughts.

Although I believe that life begins at conception and that all abortion is the taking of a life, I am completely horrified by the expansion of abortion through the full term of pregnancy and the idea of taking the life of a baby who can survive outside the womb, as is now law in the state of New York.

This legislation allows abortion up to the baby's due date if necessary "to protect the mother's life or health." The now-tabled state of Virginia bill allowed abortion if the mother's physical or mental health would be "impaired." 

There is no medical reason to abort a baby to save the life of a mother in the third trimester. None. Early delivery may be indicated in order to save a mother's life, such as in the case of a mother with preeclampsia, but delivering early can save both the mother and the baby's life. 

And if a mother's mental health might be "impaired?" We certainly can provide the psychological care needed to help her through a month or two until the baby is born, and after. Adoption is a life-giving option. There are so, so many couples unable to have children who are longing to adopt.

I'm sorry, ladies. It is not your body. Fair or unfair, the moment you became pregnant, it was your body and another person's body. Google "sovereign zone argument" and "right to refuse" argument for interesting and compelling arguments supporting the pro-life position in this regard. 

And, in what could be another whole post, I believe, at its core, that abortion is anti-woman, a violation of the essential nature of us as life-bearers.

In addition, almost all third-trimester babies can survive outside the womb. The age of "viability" is recognized as 24 weeks. A baby born at the start of the third trimester, that is, at 27 weeks, has a 90% survival rate, and those born at 32 weeks and beyond have a 95% and greater chance of survival.

 *** My own sweet grand baby was recently born at 34 1/2 weeks. He is healthy and well. ***

You have two premature babies in the hospital. One is getting life-saving treatment in the NICU. He will go home soon. The other, down the hall, has just been aborted. The difference? One was wanted and the other one wasn't. Is this our criteria for life?!

I have heard pro-choice people say that we pro-life people are only pro-baby and not pro-children. In other words, we only care about outlawing abortions; we don't care anything about the lives of those babies after they are born. We don't care if they are born into poverty and we don't support, for example, social service programs that help poor women and children.

There are two problems with this argument, as I see it.

First of all, even if this were true, and it is unequivocally not, it has nothing to do with whether the murder of babies is right or wrong. And I'm sorry, we pro-life people are generally polite, and don't use the word "murder," but hey, it is what it is.

Do we say, let's get rid of our veterans because we don't have the social services and support network to take care of them? Do we get rid of our elderly because they don't have the health care and quality of life that they should have? Is there any other population group that we agree to dispose of because their lives are difficult, or because we sometimes as a society allow them to fall through the cracks?

Whether or not a person has or is going to have a good quality of life has nothing to do with whether or not they deserve to have life. God help us if this is our standard. I think the early eugenics programs attempted something like this. Iceland now boasts it has no Down Syndrome in its country at all (because those babies have all been aborted); ask a family with a Down Syndrome child if his or her life is not valuable.

Of course, we must always do what we can to help the most vulnerable in our society. Children, low-income families, the elderly, people with disabilities, veterans who have fought our wars and need medical and psychological help . . . we need to provide safety nets. But no human alive is guaranteed a life without struggle. Accidents, disabilities, loss of jobs, deaths of loved ones, aging . . . it happens to all of us at some point. We don't have the right to take away life because it might be hard.

Secondly, pro-life people do care about babies and children. I have pro-life friends who have adopted, who foster children, who work at social service agencies to help the poor and marginalized. Pro-life friends who tutor inner-city children after school, run programs for disadvantaged rural youth, conduct job training and parenting classes for women who have chosen to keep their babies. The list goes on.

I said this would be a controversial post. But really, why it should be controversial is beyond me. It's appalling to think that any sane person would agree that it should be legal to take life, and especially in the third trimester.

I have always prayed that one day -- soon -- we will look back on the era of Roe v. Wade with the more than 60 million aborted babies in its wake, and cry out in anguish and in repentance for what we have done. It has been a holocaust.

Bujo for 2019 and a new favorite lipstick

Monday, December 31, 2018

Okay, this trend has been around for a while. I even tried it a couple years ago, and decided I didn't like it. But I'm thinking of giving it another go, only this time, my way.

Bujo, in case you don't know, is bullet journaling, and it's been all over social media for several years now. Just search for it. The information out there and all the different examples and formats are overwhelming. But if you go to the original website, where the founder of the system, Ryder Carroll, explains it, you'll see it doesn't have to be complicated. It can be a fairly simple way to set up your own planner for the year, without investing in a big, fancy one.

I've never cared for planners because they always have sections in them that I never use, or they don't include sections that I do want.

A bullet journal allows you to customize your journal so you have it exactly the way you want, with the sections and pages you need.

I invested in this pretty berry-colored journal (found on Amazon) which is composed of dotted pages, helpful for bulleted items, boxed items, artwork, etc. Some people go major into the artistic and creative side of bullet journaling and it can be quite intimidating to see some of the beautiful creations online. (Also, lots of fun.)

I chose the dotted version, rather than lined. Hmmm . . . hope I like it.
I'm always nervous about writing in a new journal, because I want it to look pretty. And only contain lofty and well-thought-out ideas. Ha. But that defeats the purpose of a journal, right? It's supposed to house the building blocks and ideas that will help you eventually come to those brilliant and satisfying conclusions. (Or not. Sometimes I feel like I journal continuously about the same things, over and over, without making any headway!)

But when I stare at that first, pristine blank page, I have to remember one of my favorite bits of advice: If you expect perfection or nothing, you'll get nothing every time.

So I'm going to just dive in, and try not to worry if it doesn't look beautiful at the start. I'm also going to tweak the bujo idea a little.

Bullet journals are really planners -- daily, weekly, and monthly to-do lists and goal-setting. They aren't really for recording thoughts and prayers and dreams in prose form, as I like to journal. I'm going to try and set up some kind of combination of the two.

I think the reason I didn't like doing the bujo a couple years ago was all the to-do lists mixed in with my journaling. Don't get me wrong -- I'm a huge list-maker and planner. It just seemed messy to have everything together (that's why a big part of the journal is your index pages, so you can find stuff). So I think that this time I might put at least my daily to-do's on a sticky note on my journal page for the day. Then I can throw it out when the list is complete (pretty satisfying), and it doesn't take up space in my journal.

I am tired of having a grocery list, a to-do list, a prayer journal, a gratitude journal, a regular journal, a future purchases list, etc. all over the house. This seems a great way to combine everything together. 


In other organizational news, I just labelled all my new-fave lip colors. The print is so small on the end of these tubes, I had to get a magnifying glass just to read the labels, and then go to the Maybelline website to double-check because I still couldn't be sure I was seeing the names right.

I LOVE this lip color. It's the Maybelline SuperStay 24 Liquid Lipstick. One end is the color and the other end is a moisturizing balm to put on after the color. I rarely wore lip color before because it was always coming off on my coffee and tea cups or napkins or clothes. This stays on until you remove it. Literally. I've woken up after a night's sleep when I first started wearing it, having eaten and brushed my teeth, etc., the day before and it was still on. If you don't like the idea of a stain like this you might not enjoy it, but I am sold.


My youngest son recommended this study Bible. I've always read the NIV, so I am excited to try this ESV. I'm going to spend today looking at different reading plans. A couple years ago, we read the Bible though three years in a row, and I think I want to get a plan together for this year as well since the past couple years I haven't been as intentional about my reading.

I'm staying home today because of a little scratchy throat. Don't want to be near the new grand baby if I'm coming down with something. I've been able to see him almost every day since he's been born. I could sit and hold him for hours! (And have.)

So anyway, today is a great day to be getting out all my lists and plans and washi tape and markers and sit with tea and just remember 2018 and look forward to 2019. We are going really low-key tonight with leftover lasagne and Netflix!

Happy New Year to all of you, my friends!

{And has anyone done bullet journaling? Are you as overwhelmed/awed/curious as I am by the journals posted online? Any advice?}

An unexpected Christmas gift!

Monday, December 24, 2018

 We got an unexpected, but very welcome, early Christmas gift!

Matthew James, our first grandchild, arrived 5 1/2 weeks early on December 19. Mom and baby are doing well, although Matthew needed to spend some time in NICU getting his blood sugars regulated. My husband just left to take the car seat to the hospital -- we got a call that mom and dad are getting ready to bring him home!!

It was heaven to finally get to hold him today. Such a sweet little guy. I love him to bits already!


Wishing you all a very happy Christmas. I'm thankful for you all in my life. Join with me in thanking our Father for the gift of His Son, and for the blessings of this tiny grandson.

xo, Deborah 

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